Sometimes it can be hard to live with passion and purpose with problems or issues overwhelm us. When that feeling hits, it can be hard to see beyond the negative. How can you get past it and keep your head above water? My answer for all things negative is to turn it around by keeping it SIMPLE!
“SIMPLE DESIGN ” is a program I use in the Design my Best Life Coaching, to help people uncover their gifts and talents,and live their life with purpose, ON PURPOSE. Did you know that your inner voices can help you control your feelings and reactions to even the most frustrating events?
Stick with me, and we will go into more detail. For now, let us uncover the secrets to SIMPLE in everyday living! Follow these easy tips:
S = Strategy – discover strategies that resonate with, and work for you, so you can use them to help you find your way through the turmoil.
I =Intention. – Set the intention that you can and will get through whatever the issue is with positivity, taking all that comes with it as gifts of learning and experience.
M = Mindset – this will affect your results, your behaviour, and your decisions. Talk to yourself, and make sure that you are using positive self-talk. A positive mindset will remove much of the stress from the issue, and guide your actions, instead of just reacting.
P = Passion – What is important to you about the situation? Why does it affect you the way it does? Is it in conflict with something you are passionate about? Whatever it is, remember what your passions are and be true to
L = Life Choices – When you have set your intention, have a positive mindset, and recognize where this affects you with respect to your
passions, it is much easier to make the right decisions. Always make life-choices that will take you closer to your passion.
E = Experience. Look back on what has (or has not) worked in the past. Experience provides us with lessons. If something did not work in the past, don’t make the same mistake. Review why, and try something different!
How about a SIMPLE Example!
Fighting with your children or spouse, but one of your top passions is to nurture loving, positive family relationships? You have heard “Pick your battles…” This is one of those times to consider what is more important here – being right, or your passion of nurturing, loving, positive relationships?
Consider your mindset – Change it to the positive, take a deep breath, and make a life-choice on how you will respond.
Past experience will probably tell you that if you engage in the battle when everyone is upset, you all usually end up in frustration and anger. Unless there is immediate or imminent danger, choosing a strategy of talking and using a teachable moment when people have cooled down may be far preferable to fighting it out right now, and may take you on that step towards your passion. Set the intention that you will discuss the issue in a calm setting (and then plan to follow through!)
If you still decide it is worth pursuing, choose your words carefully, use a strategy of convincing rather than yelling, and set the intention to keep this as a discussion, considering all sides, rather than a battle that has to be won.
What we say in the moment can feel so harsh to receiver. Taking a small moment to become aware of the possibilities, restating the intention and mindset, and following simple strategies, will help you become more purposeful in all your negotiations.
I’m looking forward to sharing much more about the SIMPLE DESIGN system with the readers here. Meanwhile, remember to keep it SIMPLE!!